Truly love yourself

To truly love yourself, start with loving your Future Self

Sending love and kindness to your Future Self builds self-acceptance, which is a cornerstone to truly loving yourself. How do you do it? It’s easier than you might think.

For example, a few weeks ago I opened up my old laptop and like magic, voila 🪄a white 3X5 notecard with the password written on it was waiting for me inside.

What a thoughtful thing for me to do for myself, I thought.

No one knows you better than you know yourself

I know myself. I knew the next time I opened that laptop:

1. I would have zero recall of the password.

2. I would immediately start swearing and muttering to myself. Everyone in my family would slink away from my ominous cloud of grumbly wrath.

3. I’d get obsessed with getting that dang laptop unlocked and neglect the rest of my life.

That little card with the password on it meant so much to me. It meant that Past Me understood all that, and she was looking out for me.

Now listen, I don’t love that I get obsessively frustrated by little things like this. It’s not the mature, serene reaction that I would love to possess. I’m learning how I can respond differently. Leaving this note for myself was more than helpful. It was loving.

So often our internal dialogue is about how we “should be.” It’s harsh judgment that is shame-y and unkind; it doesn’t help us improve at all. On the other hand, that little card instantly told me, “I got you. You don’t have to stress. You’re not in this alone.”

Well, well, well. Look at me, changing over here!

What kinds of things can you do to send love to yourself?

Use the prompt here and print out my brainstorming worksheet. It will help get your self-love wheels spinning.

Consider these questions, maybe not all of them at once, one at a time is enough.

What are some of your common struggles or frustrations? When do you feel alone? What feels hard in your life?
What do you want more of? What do you crave? What do you long for deep down in your heart?
What can you do right now for your physical, emotional, and mental health that your Future Self will be grateful for?

The goal is to pick something simple and just do it.

If you’re craving more time with friends but always bagging out because you’re too tired, or waited till the last minute to make plans. Maybe buying tickets in advance for an event will force your Future Self to go out and have a good time.

If you know that you get lonely around the holidays, maybe you can troubleshoot now. Send calendar invites to your friends as a reminder for them to call or text you right when you’ll need them most but be the least equipped to reach out.

Put your outfit out the night before.
Start a savings account for your Future Self to spend on something they’ll love.
Get someone to text you and ask you if you’ve exercised today (there’s probably an app for that!)
Imagine yourself in 6 months or a year and tell your Future Self how proud you are of them.
Ask yourself, How would Future Me handle this?

Send yourself a love letter

Very often at my workshops, I have people write a letter to themselves which I hold onto for several months before I stamp and mail back to them. They’ve usually forgotten all about the letter way before I’ve mailed it. It’s a fabulous surprise, people love it!

Writing a love letter to your Future Self is powerful. Take your time and truly envision who you want that self to be. Imagine where you’ll be when they get your letter, what will be happening in your life. Speak to your Future Self about your goals and dreams. You’ll be surprised at how your intuition opens. You’ll instantly establish a connection that will fuel your self-love fire.

The FutureMe.org website makes it easy to surprise yourself because you can schedule your love note to be delivered automatically.

Truly love yourself

To truly love yourself, start with loving your Future Self

No one knows you better than you know yourself

What kinds of things can you do to send love to yourself?

Send yourself a love letter

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